Modifying your parenting plan for summer 

As the school year winds down, many co-parents are beginning to reassess their parenting arrangements to accommodate summer schedules. Children may have different routines during the summer months, with school out of session, vacations planned and seasonal activities to attend. 

If you co-parent with your ex, these seasonal changes can make it necessary to modify your parenting plan—whether to adjust pick-up times, extend parenting times or coordinate travel. If your co-parent doesn’t accept your proposed terms, you may need to formally negotiate or even go to court. However, in Virginia, if both parents agree on summer modifications, you’ll simply need to work with your legal team to formalize those changes to avoid misunderstandings and/or potential legal issues down the road.

Making some changes

Parenting plans are court orders, and even minor deviations—if not properly documented—can lead to conflict. A verbal agreement about shifting time for summer break may seem simple, but without proper legal documentation, one parent could later claim non-compliance or misunderstand the terms. This may be especially true if either party’s circumstances change mid-summer, such as an unexpected move, a change in work schedule or an unplanned travel issue.

Modifications for summer might include extended parenting time for one parent, adjustments for summer camp schedules or alternating weeks to reflect time off from school. In some cases, co-parents may agree to a more relaxed structure for the summer and then return to the regular school-year schedule in the fall. Regardless of the terms, these updates must be put in writing and submitted to the courts when necessary.

In Virginia, when both parties agree on the changes, the courts generally honor a modified plan, provided it remains in the best interest of the child. Yet, even when modifications seem minor, having your legal team review and file the updated agreement can help to maintain clarity and enforceability. Should any disagreements arise in the future, a court-recognized modification can serve as a reliable record of your mutual intentions.

Summer should be a time of fun and relaxation for children—not confusion over where they’re supposed to be. By proactively addressing seasonal changes and working with your attorney to formalize modifications, co-parents can create a smoother experience for their child and reduce the risk of conflict.